Matthew 7:1-3 (KJV)
7 Judge not, that ye be not judged. 2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. 3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
As a Christian, I must say. I’m so beyond tired of hearing this verse thrown around like it’s an all access pass against anyone else sharing their opinions or sharing what Scripture says about actions that are spiritually detrimental.
Seriously. Enough is enough.
If I say I believe abortion is murder – the taking of an innocent life, I have a right to believe it is, and I know what scripture says about that. It doesn’t matter if the baby has a fatal defect, wasn’t planned, was the product of rape, etc. I know such decisions aren’t easy. I get that. I know it’s not easy to deny the flesh. We’re human and we all have a sinful nature – that’s what our own natural selfishness is. It’s part of being individuals and being human.
It’s our sinful nature because we will ALWAYS be tempted to do the things that are easiest for us.
We will ALWAYS be tempted to do what causes the least amount of pain or discomfort.
We’ll ALWAYS be tempted by what feels good.
We’ll ALWAYS be tempted by what we think will allow us to feel loved by those we want to love us.
Always. Some temptations are easier to resist for some than others, but we will always have that temptation there.
I love my children. Telling them they are doing something wrong – something I believe will be detrimental to their physical or spiritual health is not just because I enjoy being critical of them. I hate that part, actually. Telling them they are doing something detrimental is BECAUSE I love them. It’s because I want to protect them that I “judge” them.
*GASP* Did I just say I judge these little people that I love so dearly?
Let’s look at the rest of the passage though, shall we?
“2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.”
So, in judging them, I’ll be judged by the same standards. Okay, great. For example: speaking calmly when I get really frustrated and tired. I’m working on that, I’ll admit. So when I remind my 3-year-old to do that, yes, I need to judge myself too.
By the same token, if I share something in a blog post saying what I understand to be “right” (spiritually and morally healthy) or “wrong” (spiritually and morally detrimental), I expect to be judged by the same standards. Believe it or not, it IS because I love you. It’s because I WANT good things for you.
If it is something you don’t want to change, you may likely feel guilty and angry. It’s your right to feel guilty and angry, but I didn’t do that to you. If you believe I’m wrong, you have no need to change anything, and therefore no reason to feel guilty and angry.
I do not have control over your feelings. I can’t MAKE you feel anything. If you’re angry, I didn’t make you feel it. Your own beliefs about the situation did.
The last portion of the passage above says,
3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
Basically, if you’re going to point out something that is detrimental to someone else, check in with yourself first. Judge yourself and see if you’re doing anything God has asked you not to do. Pray for wisdom and guidance (James 1:5). If there is something you feel convicted by the Holy Spirit about, you’d better be making it right before you try to tell others what is healthy/unhealthy for their spiritual health. None of us are perfect (myself undoubtedly included). We’re all human, and we all have a selfish human nature (because seriously, do any of us REALLY know what it’s like to live in someone else’s mind and understand their history, way of thinking, etc.?).
In closing, anger ALWAYS has other emotions attached. If you feel angry because something has pointed out something that you are willingly doing or have willingly done and therefore are left feeling guilty, hurt, discouraged, etc., there is hope and there is healing. It doesn’t matter what you have done, God loves you and hasn’t gone anywhere.
John 3:16 (KJV)
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
God loves you and hasn’t gone anywhere. He provided an opportunity for redemption. For You.
1 John 1:9 (KJV)
9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Satan likes to throw our pasts back into our faces and stir up those feelings of hurt, discouragement, and guilt, but if you have accepted God’s forgiveness, you don’t need to worry about it. It’s been covered by the blood. Keep your chin up, Praise the Lord anyway, and keep moving forward!
Philippians 4:8 (KJV)
8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
In Christ’s Love,