What do you value?

As you enter 2014, ask yourself – What in this world is most important to you?

Family? Marriage? Job?

Of all the possible priorities a person can set, what are yours? Spirituality, religion, relationship with God? Is humor most important to you? What about serving others, work ethic, or health? Competition? Control? Courage?

If your spouse or children were asked what is most important to you, what would they say? Being well-liked? Winning? Having more stuff? What is it that keeps your attention the most each day? Challenge? Artistic expression?

Look over the list below and select 4-6 values you believe are absolutely most important to you. What do they mean to you? Why are they most important?

Admiration
Accomplishment
Acceptance
Adventure
Activity
Artistic Expression
Attention
Beauty
Being well-liked
Being ethical
Bravery
Challenge
Calm
Children
Control
Cleanliness
Courage
Consistency
Compromise
Communication
Creativity
Contentment
Companionship
Dependence
Discipline
Diplomacy
Dreaming
Entertainment
Energy
Enthusiasm
Faith
Faithfulness
Fairness
Family
Friends
Fitness
Fact
Free Time
Giving
Having enough money
Humor
Home
Honesty
Health
Independence
Justice
Kindness
Love
Legacy
Logic
Loyalty
Memory/Memories
Openness
Peace
Popularity
Punctuality
Patience
Prosperity
Playfulness
Praise
Presentation
Predictability
Quiet
Relationship with God
Relationship with Others
Religion
Routine
Romance
Responsibility
Respect
Resiliency Reason
Spirituality
Serving Others
Sobriety
Self-Sacrifice
Social Status
Success
Self-Care
Satisfaction
Spontaneity
Tradition
Trust
Time Alone
Understanding
Vitality
Wisdom
Winning
Work Ethic
Wealth
Youth

Now, ask yourself… what values are you living? On what do you spend your time and money? What are you teaching your children to value? Where does your spouse fall in your list of priorities?

If what you claim to be your top values isn’t matching up with what you’re living… what needs to be adjusted in your life?

 

Keri

 

 

 Keri Kitchen is a devoted wife and mother, blogger, author of Love Isn’t Selfish, licensed mental health counselor, and founder of The Carys Rainn Foundation . 

Love Isn’t Selfish: Understanding God’s Love Through Human Relationships

Publication Date: December 15, 2012

     Because scripture tells us clearly that God is Love (1 John 4:8), we know that God, by very nature, is relational. Love is an action, emotion, state, and characteristic that requires interaction with another being. Love does not exist alone. Scripture also tells us that we have been created in God’s image (Genesis 1:27). We were created to love Him in return, though loving Him will never be forced upon us because love isn’t selfish.

It is this line of thinking that leads me to the belief that the meaning of life is to learn how to love, and then teach others. Considering that our Great Commission (Matthew 28:19-20) is to go throughout the world and teach others about our Heavenly Father’s commands (such as love God and love others; Matthew 22:37-39), we must learn first what Love is- who He is. 

     Every relationship we form gives us the opportunity to learn a bit more about His character in order to have a better understanding of who He really is. Marriage, family, friends, neighbors, and even enemies can teach us much about who God is and who God isn’t. This book examines multiple relationships we experience and what valuable information we can gather from those relationships about the character of Love, which is to say, the character of God. It’s about learning to be unselfish in a selfish world.